I’m Rob Kowalski. I used to believe monogamy-only was God’s design—until I studied Scripture for myself and realized what we’ve been told doesn’t line up with the truth. This site exists to help you unlearn cultural lies, rediscover biblical order, and build a life that honors God—whether that means finding a wife, leading your home, or reforming your church.
Families Are Collapsing Because the Church Forgot God’s Blueprint
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Monogamy-only doctrine has no biblical basis
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Pastors are afraid to teach the full counsel of God
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Men are leaving the church (or never stepping up)
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Women are unfulfilled, uncovered, or forced to lead
The result? Broken homes, confusion, and compromise
We’re not trying to start another denomination. We’re trying to call the church back to Scripture
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I used to be the most sought-after male stripper in Baltimore—living wild, chasing women, and thinking I had it all.
Then I met Jesus. I walked away from that life, embraced radical obedience, and spent nearly two decades celibate, promoting purity and the monogamy-only model I was taught. I even wrote a best-selling book on abstinence and became one of the loudest voices in the Christian purity movement.
But over time, I started to see the cracks.
I lost amazing women because I believed I could only marry one.
I wrestled with guilt, loneliness, and confusion.
And when I finally opened the Bible for myself… everything changed.
Polygyny was never condemned.
Monogamy-only was never commanded.
And the church was selling us a version of marriage that wasn’t biblical—or sustainable.
Now, I help men and women unplug from cultural programming and rediscover what God actually said.
Not to stir controversy.
But to build strong families, revive biblical masculinity, and call the church back to truth.
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Man of Options
Course + Community
A self-paced course and private brotherhood designed to help Christian men reclaim biblical masculinity, pursue righteous relationships, and build strong families — with the freedom to pursue polygyny if they choose. Through structured lessons, weekly group calls, and an active community of like-minded men. This is your training ground and tribe.
Man of Options: 1-on-1 Coaching with Rob Kowalski
For men ready to take action, this is your shortcut to marriage — and mastery. Rob walks with you personally as a coach, mentor, and brother, helping you implement the Man of Options system, overcome internal resistance, and attract your first (or next) wife with wisdom and intentionality with an eye toward polygyny as a biblical option.
Founder of the Alliance of Biblical Communities
A growing movement uniting families and home fellowships around biblical marriage, end-times readiness, and Spirit-led, unapologetically patriarchal community. The Alliance exists to equip and connect believers who have been exiled or isolated for standing on truths the modern church has abandoned through live gatherings, shared teaching, and the development of local campuses
Host of the
Kowalski Analysis Podcast
Unfiltered conversations on faith, masculinity, dating, and controversial truths the church is afraid to touch.
Featured Speaker & Media Guest:
Known for bold, biblical teaching that challenges tradition and ignites courage, Rob has inspired audiences in churches, conferences, podcasts, and platforms around the globe with his message on biblical masculinity, and biblical marriage.
Best-Selling Author of Why Waiting Works and MAN OF OPTIONS
Blending personal testimony, Scripture, and bold truth to challenge cultural lies and restore God’s design for marriage.
The #1 Course & Community for Christian Men Exploring Biblical Marriage
More than a course—it’s a brotherhood.
Learn how to lead, attract, and build a legacy-minded family rooted in Scripture, including the often-overlooked biblical option of polygyny.
Inside, you’ll grow in confidence, raise your value, and connect with a bold tribe of men pursuing truth, purpose, and purity.
“I've been a part of Rob's program from near the beginning, and his coaching has been instrumental in helping me get engaged to a woman who is enthusiastic about serving me and God by my side, including in the future as we expand our household to include additional wives.” Man of Options Member
Faithful Femininity is The #1 course and community for Christian women preparing for biblical marriage—monogamous or plural.
Led by Sanne Kowalski, this program helps you grow into a feminine, faith-filled wife and join a sisterhood rooted in truth, healing, and purpose.
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Monogamy-only doctrine isn’t just incomplete. It’s damaging. For years, I believed what I was told—that God’s design was one man and one woman, period.
But after over a decade of sexual purity, countless failed relationships, and deep biblical study, I discovered the truth: The Bible never forbade polygyny. In fact, God used it to build His nation.
This book uncovers:
●The scriptures pastors skip over
●The history the church erased
●The damage caused by ignoring God’s full design for family
Get the book:
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Get Clarity, Fast
Need personalized direction on your journey—but not ready for a full coaching program? Book a 30- or 60-minute session with me for focused, strategic guidance.
Whether you’re navigating dating, biblical masculinity, fitness, business, or faith, this is your chance to get straight answers and actionable advice. Perfect for men who want clarity on next steps, help making a key decision, or a second set of eyes on their situation.
This is not my full Man of Options coaching program—just a powerful, one-time call to move you forward with confidence.
