In my book, Why Waiting Works , I attempt to explain The Sex Trap and this is where I get myself into some heated debates—mostly with my female friends.  But try to stick with me and keep an open mind; I promise if you catch this it will help you avoid some pain and wasted time. The problem starts with the differences in what men are looking for versus what women are looking for in dating and relationships.  Here it is, at a very base level men want sex and women want securi