Many Christian men quietly struggle with a question they’re afraid to ask: why does sexual desire fade in marriage, even when love remains? Psychology calls it habituation. Scripture calls men to be fruitful and multiply. What if this tension isn’t moral failure, but misunderstood design, and what if the church has been answering the wrong question all along?

Let's dive right into it. But first things first, for all my fellow Christians out there, I need to clear something up. Contrary to what you might have been told, there's no biblical ban on polygyny. That is the term for a man having multiple wives. Seriously, take a moment to think about it. There are tons of things the Bible explicitly forbids, with punishments spelled out for each infraction, but polygyny ain’t one of ’em. No punishments, no condemnations, not even one neg